![]() They then weaponize YOUR words and say that YOU are mistreating THEM. You try harder – and even give your best attempt of resolving whatever they are trying to say – grabbing onto bits and pieces of what they originally said, and they raise it up to a higher level by scrutinizing YOUR good words and making them wrong now. That Narcissist wants a REACTION – whether it is to get you frustrated, angry, or whatever so they can take it to another level – BUT you still don’t know what the jest of it YET. NO, that Narcissist is going to keep you jumping through hoops instead of getting some sort of reason or logic going because they want to take complete control of this so-called conversation by locking you up in a word salad or confusion. You try to work with them, maybe even asking them to be more specific because you WANT to work it out. So, they start off with what always seems like a command hidden in a question – and right away you feel confused and a little taken back by how they start this conversation out. The victim is constantly kept emotionally and psychologically off balance by the insidious behaviors of their Narcissistic partner and ALWAYS having to explain themselves and feeling like they have to do more and more to please the Narcissist and living in FEAR. ![]() What was once considered the perfect relationship now becomes a relationship that is unnerving, controlling, debasing, dehumanizing, gut wrenching, unstable and full of blame and shame. The Narcissist will begin to mentally disassemble the victim’s self-esteem and beliefs about themselves and the relationship. The Narcissist’s reign of terror and destruction begins with small negative comments about the victim. They have a point and that is to bring YOU down with their words. WHY because they want to diminish something about you through their conflicting messaging. It is always a circular conversation with a Narcissist that never ends and is always filled with irrelevant and meaningless points, word salads and basically nonsense meant to keep you in chaos AND fearful with no end in sight.
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